Friday, August 20, 2004

Moms on being sick

Let's face it ladies, if you are a mom and you get the stomach virus, life simply will not allow even a slight pause in your routine!
I had severe stomach virus on Wednesday night, got the kids in bed and then, well I will not describe the detailed events that followed. Anyway, I was asleep when Corey got home, even though after he was home I still vomited again and he didn't even know it! Anyway, he left for work Thursday morning at about 6:00am, his team is in pre-season, so he still did not know that I was sick! I got up at 6:20 and got Kennedy ready for school, got her on the bus and just layed back down when Macguire woke up and soon followed by Emerson. So, we are off...everyone needs juice, waffles etc...and I am cringing because my stomach is rolling, but I make them breakfast then clean everything up and then I try to think of the best way to entertain a 4 yr old and a 1 1/2 yr old ALL DAY!!!!! So we make it through most of the day and I get a call from the new gym owner and I have to go to a new school's cheer practice at 4:00 and talk to the 3 coaches! So, it is 2:30 and I haven't even taken a shower... Anyway, we get to the gym and I sort of have to hunch over a little bit, standing straight up makes me feel sick, but I turn to my precious 3 children and say "Please be good, sit still and let me talk and then we will be done faster" and earlier in the car they had asked me if we could buy donut holes and I am thinking sure, after the meeting. So, the kids are HIDEOUS!!!!! Running all over the gym, jumping in the bleachers, Emy has no shoes on, her hair bow is somewhere in the gym and the are throwing things and just overall, anything you can think of, they are doing it!!! So, let me recap, I am sick to my stomach, trying to talk 3 coaches into bringing their squads into my gym and trying to at least watch my children so they do not die!!!! I tried the subtle "Kennedy please be still" and what I really wanted to say was "SIT DOWN BEFORE I SPANK YOUR BOTTOM!!!!!!!" But I obviously cannot say that in front of these coaches and all 50 of their cheerleaders! So we make it through the meeting and we get to the car and then watch out!!! I went over everything to them and told them I was both angry and disappointed and that we were not stopping for donut holes. Really I guess I said "you will not have donut holes or anything else" and Mac (he is my sensitive, repentive one) is crying and saying "I'm very, very (which really sounds like berry), very sorry. But are we not allowed to have dinner?" And he is so serious and so sweet that it breaks me! I did not get them donut holes, but yes they had dinner etc...

Wednesday, August 18, 2004

The way it is...

This is the way it is...
I am sitting here sipping a glass of wine (offensive? oh well, I am legal) and eating a bag of popcorn. This will be dinner. Corey is at a school dinner (eating well I assume), and the kids are actually well fed (i made turkey sandwiches, apple slices, and yes I gave them some popcorn) so no one needs to call CPS on me.
The way it is... I was asked to help start a cheer gym, and now my opinion doesn't matter, I am being told what I need to do, I am working more hours and ?...
The way it is... I asked my next door neighbor to watch my children (I did pay her $40.00) and they DESTROYED my house and her dog licked my baby on the lips/nose/eyes/ears/cheeks until she started crying (for some reason I just thought of Steve Raikes' old girlfriend that we called cheeks!)
The way it is... I need a vacation!!!!!!!!! Any takers???

Bad mothering

I bet you know one person that constantly makes you feel like a bad mother (or dad)! I have met this lady who lives down the street and has 2 girls and she is constantly pointing out things that make me feel like I am an awful mother! And the thing is, she never says, "oh you are a bad mom" straight out, but this is what happens...
Our girls are the same age (8) and I have just begun to let Kennedy ride her bike in the street in our neighborhood, only on our strret where I can see her. Well, if this other girl rides her bike to our house (she lives at 208 and I live at 231) her mom will drive in the car behind her.
Kennedy called to ask if she wanted to have a lemonade stand in our driveway, so the mom gets on the phone and is like "is it safe?" "are you going to sit with them" "who is going to be stopping" etc... Now, understand this, we do not live in the ghetto, so yes I think it is safe. I was planning to clean out the garage so, yes, I would be outside. And I do not have a list of name sthat will be stopping, but I can check ID's if you want!!!!!!
Kennedy rides the bus home from school. And this mom was like "oh, you let her ride the bus?" as if this is comparable to placing her in a cage with a tiger! And then she says "well, I heard that the bus driver cusses at the kids" And I think well, I'm sure they deserved it! J/K!!!!! Really, I called the bus barn and they told me he has driven the bus for 17 years and has never had any "violations" on his record. So ????
Both her girls will be in school all day (Kindergarten and 3 grade) and I was thinking that is great! I am sure you will be enjoying your time! And she almost started crying, and said "It is devastating! My husband is staying home with me for the first 2 days to help me through it" Okay....??!!!!!!!!!I must be awful thinking that Kennedy is gone all day and Mac will be gone in the mornings 5 days a week, and that makes me happy!!
And it goes on and on "I don't allow candy in the house" "I have never had a babysitter for these kids" "I would never let them have their own minds" J/K that was me speaking sorry!!!

In the Car

I am driving home last night in the car with the kids and the car is the automatic signal that every child can please sing, yell or say "Mommy" over and over again! As I am driving and Kennedy is singing/drumming on the seat in front of her(making up something as I do not have the radio on)... Emerson is using her favorite way of communicating, which is screaming....And Macguire keeps saying "mommy, I 'm sorry my hands are dirty, mommy I'm sorry my hands are dirty" And I sat there thinking, how long can this go on if I do not say anything???So I drive and drive and 11 minutes later all is still loud (Kennedy is singing the same line over and over again for 11 minutes!!) so at the 11:30 breaking point I am seriously wondering why Jesus is not reappearing and saving me from sure commitment (insane that is)!!!! Haha!!! Every parent knows what I am talking about.
Also, I have to say, there is something weird about 8 year olds, they just act strange sometimes and you have to wonder what they are even thinking!! I remember my sister Molly having this same stage! (sorry Mol!) I was 18 and Kelly was 17 and we were like who is this alien child and why is she always doing something strange! If you have (or had) and 8 year old, then you do know what I am talking about! I guess I should end every sentence "you do know what I am talking about" I will be like Paul Harvey "and now for the rest of the story" Funny, I can remember my dad listening to that all the time!
Kennedy brought home a book from school that she made "all about me" and it was full of some interesting things that I didn't know about her! Like if she was granted 3 wishes what would they be 1. Another sister!!! (sorry, that would take an act of God)(or vasectomy reversal) and 2. A new dog ( of course I knew this one since Keegan has died) and 3. A horse So interesting! Also it says "what makes me sad" and she said when my brother hits me (which I do not get, if you have seen Macguire you would know that first of all he is not big enough to hurt anyone and secondly, he is sweet as can be and wouldn't hit) but then the next question was "when am I lonely" and she wrote when my brother is not with me. Awwww, very sweet.
okay enough kid chatter... If you have ever had an unsettled feeling in the pit of your stomach and have wondered just what that was about I would like to suggest something...You are not supposed to be completely settled in this world! At times I am wondering what am I doing her what is going on and why do I never quite feel fulfilled?? I have a great life, the best husband,wonderful kids and all is well, so why am I constantly unsettled?
"In order to keep us from becoming too attached to earth, God allows us to feel a significant amount of discontent and dissatisfaction in life - longings that will never be fulfilled on this side of eternity. We're not completely happy here because we are not supposed to be!" After all what is the purpose of life on earth? Preparing for eternity.
So, I leave you with that today, oh yeah, I have changed my settings on this blog, so if you want to comment you can without being a member! Fire away! I love hearing from people!